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Why I Gave Up Dieting

You were probably initially drawn to my page because it dealt with fitness. Maybe it was because you knew me in “real life” and needed a little kick in the butt to remind you to stay/get in shape. I posted tons of workout selfies, meal prep that I had done, diet plans I chose to use through things like Beachbody (never going to knock them because they helped me when I wanted to start working out more).  Things were really different if you scroll back to just a year or two ago.

But then I stopped. I stopped posting as much. I stopped taking workout selfies. I stopped sharing what I was eating. I was feeling miserable. No matter how much I was dieting and exercising it felt like I was just the same. I felt like there was such a small difference and I was driving myself crazy. I felt like I was failing as the “fitness” role model I wanted to be. I was not going out with friends.  I was avoiding social events. I was limiting what I ate when I was on the road for work. I lived a life that was completely limited.

And when I would “cheat” or get the chance to have something delicious, I was a monster. I was out of control. I would eat the entire bag of chips in one sitting. The entire pint of Halo Top I picked up earlier that day would be gone that night (I know this one isn’t “bad” but eating a pint every other night was not a good thing either). I was ravenous and when I had a chance to eat “bad food”, I went crazy and binged.

It was a vicious cycle. I would diet, be so proud of myself, go out and binge eat, and come back and feel like absolute crap.  Then I would start again.  IT WAS INSANITY. And I was exhausted. Exhausted about hating my body. Exhausted about feeling self conscious all the time when I was eating something deemed “not healthy”.  So I came across certain Instagram feeds that promoted this thing called “intuitive eating”. I know what the two words mean separately but I was curious about what they meant when used together…

I started doing some research and listened to the audiobook “Big Girl: How I gave up dieting and got a life”.  It changed everything for me. I also listened to “Intuitive Eating: A revolutionary Program that works”.  I started practicing what each book taught me: there is no such thing as a “bad food”. I swear that was my wakeup call. Nothing was off limits and contrary to what you may think, this made me want “bad stuff” a whole lot LESS. I knew I could have it so I didn’t have to binge anymore. It was freeing and really helped me start healing my relationship with food.

I also learned to listen to my body. I started asking myself questions like: Are you really hungry or bored? Are you eating because you’re hungry or are you emotional? If I’m feeling emotional, what’s the reason behind it? I became more in tune with myself and recognized triggers. When I was stressed about the wedding, money, or school, I had a tendency to not eat much and reach for things like Hot Cheetos and wine.  But I recognized I was stressed at that point and found ways to try to eliminate stress to make my life a little easier.  I figured out that I didn’t really care for big dinners and shook the need that I had to have some sort of complex carb to eat with dinner like a sweet potato. I opted for meals that were focused on protein and veggies for dinner because that’s what my body wanted and what made me feel good before going to bed a few hours later.  I stopped assuming I was hungry for breakfast at 7am and asked myself “are you really hungry or are you eating out of habit?” I started eating more vegan and vegetarian food because my body was not feeling meat as much. This showed me a whole new world of ingredients and restaurants that have blown my mind.

This changed also brought along a lot of fear. Fear of weight gain because I wasn’t eating 4-6 small meals a day balanced with protein, fat and carbs. Fear of eating items that were previously off limits. Fear of being more than the size 10/12 I’ve pretty much been my entire adult life. But I strive every day to shake that fear and remind myself that my size is not a determinant of my worth or potential. Yes, people that don’t know and people that do know me may think I have changed or look different but if they are people that know me for who I am will love me more now because I can actually go out with them and have a spontaneous dinner date or happy hour date in the middle of the week.  It has freed me to start this new relationship with food, eating, my family, my friends, and my body.

But there’s one crucial piece I have not shared with you…

You will always see me exercising and moving. I just love it.  It makes me feel so good. It helps me with my anxiety. I’m such a busy body and my mind goes a thousand miles per hour and working out helps me slow down and be present. I will move as long as I can and I will always use it as the best form of free therapy. But that works for ME. Maybe you just like to take walks with your dog or go on hikes. Maybe you like to do yoga at home. Just make sure to move the way that makes you feel happy. Celebrate your body and embrace its ability to move.  Don’t use exercise as a form of punishment because you ate a sleeve of Oreos.

I hope this post inspires you to embrace who you are and I challenge you to shake the stigma of dieting. In the books I read I learned that 95% of diets fail. Why do you want to intentionally set yourself up for a life of failure? It’s a culture that makes us feel “less than” and encourages us to buy products that make us “better”. Fit looks different on everyone. I work out four to six days a week and I think I’m pretty fit when I curl those 25 pound dumbbells, but I also wear a size 12/14 in pants and a M/L in shirts. But I am happy. I am thankful for who I am and for all my body is able to do. You are perfect the way you are and you should embrace that and shake that diet stigmas and do what you enjoy.

I am here for each an every one of you if you want to take the journey with me. I no longer entertain dieting or diet culture but I’m ready to help you change your life and find all the happiness and fun I’ve found by giving up dieting.

All hail the #antidiet movement!!!!

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Where TF Has The Fit Britt Been?

Hi.

You probably totally forgot about me. Passed me a couple of times on your timeline posting pictures of me and this super handsome guy or maybe seen some of those motivational posts I’ve been putting up. Maybe you’ve been following my Orangetheory journey on my story or seen some of the things I’ve made in my kitchen or even the hashtag #intuitiveeating. You may be even saw me dabbling in vegetarianism/veganism but eating a big ass sushi roll in the next post. You’ve probably been wondering…”dude, she did have a blog but the last time she posted was last summer so I guess she kind of died out like everyone else usually does.”

And you’re right.

I was overwhelmed. I was busy. I was happy. I was challenged. I was sad. I was unsure. I was changing and evolving. So here’s where I’ve been.

Dude, I got Married.

So last time I wrote on here I was in a happy relationship (and still am!) but I was just a mere fiancé. May 5, 2018, John and I got married in front of 135 of our favorite people in the world. It was an amazing time but leading up to it challenged us financially, emotionally, and physically. John was changing careers and was in school receiving his certification in web development. We went through some financial hardships during that time but he came out on top, got his first job in the web development world and said sayonara to his ten year career in sales. Meanwhile, I had to listen to everyone’s opinion…I mean umm…input on what I should and should not do for the wedding. We were so excited to take this next step and barreled toward the finish line. But that wasn’t the only thing I was doing during that time…

I became a Doctor, yo.

Yup. You read that right. On June 20, 2018, I defended my dissertation focusing on how emotional intelligence training can have an impact on how individuals handle organizational change. I promise you’ll never have to remember that, and we can still be friends. This was one of the hardest things I have ever done, and it was a three-year journey that was from April 2015-June 2018.  It was insane when I sat down and actually realized that I have only been out of school two years my whole entire life…since I started when I was a kid. I know…WTF right?

Shout out to my fine ass husband who was (and will always be) a huge inspiration and motivator during that time and thank God I have a job that I don’t really have to “bring home”.  School was definitely my side hustle and was challenging because even though I’m really good at school, this was on a whole different level. I have never read more or written more in my life and I am not sure I will be doing that again for a while…or like…ever again.  But I wouldn’t change anything about my experience.

During this time I became a freak who lived off wine, hot Cheetos, and odd amounts of the strangest foods because I also happened to….

Say a big “F— You” to Dieting

I have been dieting since I was 12. That’s (almost) 18 years. Holy #%*& right? Now, don’t go thinking that my parents were some evil people who didn’t let me eat things (but they did have an impact on the way I saw food…more on this in another post). They were loving, wonderful and supportive but I learned “carbs are bad and make you fat” long before y’all found the keto diet. I read this book called “Big Girl: How I gave up dieting and got a life” and it kick started my journey to discovering what it meant to eat intuitively. It has changed my life, my happiness, my social life, my perspective on working out, and how I see other of different sizes. I have learned that being extra small or extra large is not necessarily an indication of someone’s health.  I have also become a total “granola” girl, living a chemical free life and embracing all things essential oils. I can’t wait to share more about this paradigm shift with you all in upcoming posts. I have really enjoyed the messages I have gotten from those who have seen my mindset shift and felt inspired by it. But one of the biggest things I have found is….

I finally started looking in the mirror and saying “Damn, girl you fine.”

You probably are rolling your eyes going “OMG this heifer is really trying to convince us that she is not pretty?” That’s not what I’m saying. I have heard people tell me things like “you have a pretty face” a lot in my life but never really my body.  I have had people fawning over my height but then making fun of my arms. I have developed body image issues that would make you want to throw a pity party for me. But day by day I am shaking those feelings. I love my gigantic butt now and I love making jokes about it. I look at my arms and go “Y’all are strong AF for those 25 pound curls in Orangetheory today. Keep doing you”.  I have begun to embrace the little acne scars I got from switching birth control pills and I call them little freckles. I finally started to say, “Damn, girl, you fine.”

I am becoming who I am and becoming more “fit” in every way. I promised you all this would be a blog that would redefine what it means to be fit and now that I am done with my doctoral and marriage journey, I’m so ready to share the rest with you. I have some secrets I can’t share just yet but in due time I hope that you’ll come to associate me as a badass #girlboss and ultimate make a real name for #TheFitBritt. I hope to keep inspiring you guys each week with new experiences, stories, and delicious things I’ve tried in future posts. So stay tuned, keep checking back, and comment below about what you’d like to hear next!